Fight or Flight? How I Overcame My First Challenge


“Twenty years from now, you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do”
Mark Twain

Since my childhood I had a speech problem – I stammered. A lot. The minute I started talking, I could feel people staring at me, and it was embarrassing. Controlling my tears I slowly withdrew into a shell. Many times I tried looking for answers to this pain that fate had gifted me.

I knew my ideas and opinions were good, however I couldn’t voice it out fearing embarrassment due to stammering. It was a problem that stood so tall that I had come to accept it as a part of my life and was learning to live with. But I realized later I was just trying to escape from it.

Once I very reluctantly attended a development seminar. I don’t remember much from that day, but when he quoted the above words, something struck me, and as they say, it was a turning point in my life. It seemed like the words were directed at me – and I held onto those words. Since then I decided I was not going accept my fate, I was going to make a stand, and I was going to do so NOW. Twenty years later I didn’t want to look back and rue.

Today as I write this, roughly 16 years have passed by, and when I look back I feel grateful to have attended that workshop. Life since then was no more a flight but a fight, a fight that I wanted to win. I started speaking, contributing, not bothering about what others thought about me.

It took close to 4 years for me to overcome my speech problem – well I had no other help, just myself. It was just determination because I didn’t want to feel disappointed ever again.

Today I’m an Organisation Development consultant, facilitator and do a lot of programs speaking hours on end for individuals, teams and organisations, with no breaks or stops in my communication.

What was once a curse is now a gift, and a blessing.

So what do you do when you have a supposedly insurmountable problem like this? You can put up a fight……

  1. Believe in yourself. Remember only you can make the biggest difference to your life, simply because no one else stands to gain as much.
  2. Daily Inspiration is a must just like bathing.Look out always for inspirational messages in your surroundings. Could be in a blog, or in a magazine, Facebook, linkedin are full of advice and messages. Some of them are truly good, hold on to them and utterly believe.
  3. Be positive. Always. Make it visible in the way you dress, the way you walk and talk. Who knows, maybe YOU will be the inspirational message for someone else.
  4. Ignore the nay sayers. There will always be people who will stand in the way, sucking the energy out of you. JIT – Just Ignore Them.

Did you have any such instances in your life? A turning point, if you will. Share your thoughts and stories. Let’s be the positive inspiration for others. Cheers!!

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