“Twenty years from now, you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do”
– Mark Twain
Since my childhood I had a speech problem – I stammered. A lot. The minute I started talking, I could feel people staring at me, and it was embarrassing. Controlling my tears I slowly withdrew into a shell. Many times I tried looking for answers to this pain that fate had gifted me.
I knew my ideas and opinions were good, however I couldn’t voice it out fearing embarrassment due to stammering. It was a problem that stood so tall that I had come to accept it as a part of my life and was learning to live with. But I realized later I was just trying to escape from it.
Once I very reluctantly attended a development seminar. I don’t remember much from that day, but when he quoted the above words, something struck me, and as they say, it was a turning point in my life. It seemed like the words were directed at me – and I held onto those words. Since then I decided I was not going accept my fate, I was going to make a stand, and I was going to do so NOW. Twenty years later I didn’t want to look back and rue.
Today as I write this, roughly 16 years have passed by, and when I look back I feel grateful to have attended that workshop. Life since then was no more a flight but a fight, a fight that I wanted to win. I started speaking, contributing, not bothering about what others thought about me.
It took close to 4 years for me to overcome my speech problem – well I had no other help, just myself. It was just determination because I didn’t want to feel disappointed ever again.
Today I’m an Organisation Development consultant, facilitator and do a lot of programs speaking hours on end for individuals, teams and organisations, with no breaks or stops in my communication.
What was once a curse is now a gift, and a blessing.
So what do you do when you have a supposedly insurmountable problem like this? You can put up a fight……
- Believe in yourself. Remember only you can make the biggest difference to your life, simply because no one else stands to gain as much.
- Daily Inspiration is a must just like bathing.Look out always for inspirational messages in your surroundings. Could be in a blog, or in a magazine, Facebook, linkedin are full of advice and messages. Some of them are truly good, hold on to them and utterly believe.
- Be positive. Always. Make it visible in the way you dress, the way you walk and talk. Who knows, maybe YOU will be the inspirational message for someone else.
- Ignore the nay sayers. There will always be people who will stand in the way, sucking the energy out of you. JIT – Just Ignore Them.
Did you have any such instances in your life? A turning point, if you will. Share your thoughts and stories. Let’s be the positive inspiration for others. Cheers!!